“The Pacifier – Makings of an Adult Baby?”

A pacifier

A pacifier (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Sorry sweetie, I know it has ruined your day that you can’t have a sookie anymore, but we’re done!”

My inspiration for this post? Seeing a mother out with her two children today. One approximately age three, and the other approximately age five, both of them with the pacifier in their mouth. Do you have every right to make your own parenting decisions? Of course! Do I agree with it for my kid? Hell no! I will not have my child turn into one of those creepy adult babies featured on “My Strange Addiction”.

The pacifier. Otherwise knows as a soother, sookie, sooker, etc. I relied on it heavily for a long time. We nicknamed it the “mute button” for a while, because it would instantly sooth and, for lack of a better word, pacify her. If she woke up, we could shove sooker into her mouth and she’d drift right back to sleep. It was mommy’s life saver for a very long time. We’ve recently gotten rid of the sooker, and to say it was a hellish transition is an understatement.

These are older pics, but it gives you an idea of what we’ve been dealing with.

My kid, with her sooker:


My kid when you took away the sooker:


Needless to say, we just let her have it most of the time. Who wants to be bothered with that fight, when you can have peace and quiet?

Now, at 19 months old, we decided to be done with it. Our choice was based off of a few things. First, we didn’t want her development of speech inhibited by always having in a mute button, and second, we feared that it may not be the best idea for her teeth to have a pacifier in 24/7.

Plus, who wants their kid growing up into this:



So we took them away. It was a rough transition, mostly because she had to adjust to not sleeping with it (which was an adjustment for Mommy, too because if she woke up, I woke up). Plus you know these kids. They stash and hide these things away and then all of a sudden you turn around and they’ve got another one in their face! Where does she even hide these things?! It’s like she’s got this never ending stash of pacifiers hidden in every crack in our house. She must have learned this technique by watching her mother’s chocolate hoarding. Crap.

At 19 months old now, we’ve been pacifier free for about a full month. So far so good, and I think she’s forgotten about them for the most part, until we go somewhere and she sees another kid with one. Then, all hell breaks loose, and there’s nothing you can do to change her laser-beam focus on the sooker. We’re done for.

What are your thoughts? Is it ok to let a kid use a pacifier till whenever they want to give it up? Do you think it can turn them into one of those creepy adult babies featured in those
“reality” shows?