Love takes time…or does it? Bonding with your baby.

The lovely Mummy at Mummy Flying Solo posted a wonderful proposal about putting together the stories of many Mama’s who had trouble bonding with their baby. It is something that people don’t talk about often, either due to shame, embarrassment, or the incumbent “don’t you love your kid?” comments which are incredibly out of line.

I think it’s so brave of her to venture into this project, and am sharing the post for her in the hopes that it will reach more Mama’s who may like to contribute to her project. It isn’t abnormal to go through an initial period of difficulty bonding with your baby. Some people just take more time to get to know.


Love takes time…or does it? Bonding with your baby..


Top 5 Strangest/Most Unnecessary Baby Products

Do you ever look at some products out there and have a serious “Oh my God, who would actually buy this?” moment? I do all the time, but I am pretty big on only buying things that I deem actually necessary.

So after perusing the internet tonight (baby L is asleep and my fiance is setting up a PS3 so I actually had some time to play on the net) I found some products that I just had to comment on. Some made me laugh, some made me slap my hand to my forehead in disbelief.

Would love to hear your opinions!

So here we go – My top 5 strangest, most unnecessary baby products of all time!

1) Baby Bangs (www.babybangs.com)


Seriously – WTF.

I mean my little girl was bald for her first 9 months, but it’s a cute baby bald. I never felt the need to Donald Trump her and give her an obviously fake toupee! Who actually looks at her baby and says “I mean she’s kinda cute, but I mean I think she’d be prettier if I could give her a wig”. Way to start your daughter off with a complex right from the get go – you’ve only just been born, and we’re already giving you body image issues. Yay! (BARF!)

2) Temperature Test Duck

temperature duck

While pregnant, I was walking through Babies R Us with someone who spotted this and exclaimed “Wow! What a genius idea! Now you’ll know if the water is too hot!”.

Umm, correct me if I’m wrong, but in the time it takes you to take the duck and put it in the water, wait for the duck to read the temperature, pick it up and turn it over to read the temperature gauge….. could you not have just put your damn hand into the tub and checked it yourself?! Completely unnecessary.

3) Baby Bottom Fan

baby bottom fan

Baby bum rashes suck. I’ve been there and done that and it is a PAIN IN THE ASS (Haha look at me being punny) to deal with. Any doctor or nurse will tell you that letting your babe air out their tush is crucial to speeding up healing time. But seriously? A baby bottom fan? When my kid is sore and in pain, and doesn’t sit still, I’m not about to put a fan with whirring blades up in there. It’s not like she’d sit still to let me do it anyway. Besides there’s this other thing you can use that will do the same thing for free…. air.

4) Perfume for babies.

Baby Perfume


Seriously. It was recently in the news that Dolce and Gabbana is also releasing a baby perfume, for all those mama’s who are like “Eww I hate the way my baby smells”. Excuse me?
The thing I love most about babies is that baby smell! Their little freshly bathed heads. Besides, who in their right mind is ok with slathering unnecessary chemicals all over their babes skin?

This is just an awful idea all around.

5) Buster ride on vaccuum for toddlers.

Buster Ride on Vaccuum

Ok when I first saw this, I thought this was so unnecessary and just a marketing ploy. Then I really thought about it. Whoever invented this is actually a GENIUS!

This is probably the only thing on this list I might buy. My kid is obsessed with her little ride on cars. She tries to go all over the house with them. She’s also obsessed with the vaccuum cleaner. Why not combine them, let her “play” and then it’s one less chore for Mommy to do?

“Hey Mama, can I PLEEASE ride my car in the house?”

“Sigh… if you must.”

Mom gets to sit back with a Hershey bar while the kid cleans the house without even knowing it.

Where can I get one of these?


“The Pacifier – Makings of an Adult Baby?”

A pacifier

A pacifier (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Sorry sweetie, I know it has ruined your day that you can’t have a sookie anymore, but we’re done!”

My inspiration for this post? Seeing a mother out with her two children today. One approximately age three, and the other approximately age five, both of them with the pacifier in their mouth. Do you have every right to make your own parenting decisions? Of course! Do I agree with it for my kid? Hell no! I will not have my child turn into one of those creepy adult babies featured on “My Strange Addiction”.

The pacifier. Otherwise knows as a soother, sookie, sooker, etc. I relied on it heavily for a long time. We nicknamed it the “mute button” for a while, because it would instantly sooth and, for lack of a better word, pacify her. If she woke up, we could shove sooker into her mouth and she’d drift right back to sleep. It was mommy’s life saver for a very long time. We’ve recently gotten rid of the sooker, and to say it was a hellish transition is an understatement.

These are older pics, but it gives you an idea of what we’ve been dealing with.

My kid, with her sooker:


My kid when you took away the sooker:


Needless to say, we just let her have it most of the time. Who wants to be bothered with that fight, when you can have peace and quiet?

Now, at 19 months old, we decided to be done with it. Our choice was based off of a few things. First, we didn’t want her development of speech inhibited by always having in a mute button, and second, we feared that it may not be the best idea for her teeth to have a pacifier in 24/7.

Plus, who wants their kid growing up into this:



So we took them away. It was a rough transition, mostly because she had to adjust to not sleeping with it (which was an adjustment for Mommy, too because if she woke up, I woke up). Plus you know these kids. They stash and hide these things away and then all of a sudden you turn around and they’ve got another one in their face! Where does she even hide these things?! It’s like she’s got this never ending stash of pacifiers hidden in every crack in our house. She must have learned this technique by watching her mother’s chocolate hoarding. Crap.

At 19 months old now, we’ve been pacifier free for about a full month. So far so good, and I think she’s forgotten about them for the most part, until we go somewhere and she sees another kid with one. Then, all hell breaks loose, and there’s nothing you can do to change her laser-beam focus on the sooker. We’re done for.

What are your thoughts? Is it ok to let a kid use a pacifier till whenever they want to give it up? Do you think it can turn them into one of those creepy adult babies featured in those
“reality” shows?